HOW TO STOP THE BULLIES.
At Billy Manne Martial Arts, we are committed to helping “STOP THE BULLIES”. Bullying is becoming more widespread and the effects on someone can be far reaching and potentially devastating.
What to do if you think your child is being bullied?
It is very important to understand that when someone is being bullied that the person will often feel ashamed, have a sense of failure and feel that the fact they are being bullied is somehow their fault.
Being bullied has a deep impact on someone’s self-esteem. (This applies to adults as well as children).
The sense of failure often means that the child will deny being bullied and in fact may hide it from parents and caregivers. If a parent or caregiver suspects that a child is being bully and displays anger towards the bully, the child sometimes feels that somehow, they are responsible for the parent being angry. Children crave approval from their parents and worry if they think they are making a parent angry.
So, if you suspect your child is being bullied in some shape or form, a much better option is to first look for red flags. A major red flag is a change in behaviour. Sometimes these changes are subtle, sometimes very extreme.
Examples of changes that may indicate that a child is being bullied are: –
- Child is quieter than normal
- Spending more time in their room.
- Avoiding going to school
- Decline in academic achievement
- Not looking forward to social events such as school fetes, parties, things that s/he used to be excited about.
- Not sleeping well.
- Change in eating patterns.
- In extreme cases children can deal with stress and anxiety by pulling out hair and eyelashes.
- In the most severe cases, children and teenagers may engage in serious self-harm.
Any of the above are Red Flags and require further investigation. It is a very normal reaction for a parent/caregiver to get upset when they feel that their child is being bullied. It is essential to remember that this can be counter-productive and can cause the child to withdraw further. A better approach is to engage in a general discussion about being bullied.